After a very long week of very little sleep as my daughter is ill, Friday is finally here. And on this very little sleep, I will be filling in for my supervisor (who is travelling) at a meeting of department heads that I have never met. Good times... While the meeting itself is not of much consequence (although some take it *very* seriously), the "first impression" dynamic is going to play a role in my future cooperation and collaboration plans. I will wing it, like I do most things. https://i.imgur.com/LEODkM8.jpg I am not a big fan of corporate hierarchy but for a company, it is likely a necessary component of the structure because most people in this world are conditioned to respond to authority and are unused to taking all responsibility of decision-making result. Having the layers of authority allows for certain freedoms to actually take place as people are more comfortable moving when they have a group to travel with and a provided direction. Even in a decentralized environment, people still look for external forces to make suggestions of direction, people want leaders. There are various pros and cons to this of course but people generally only decide which is which based on the outcome of action, not the process itself. People are willing to make the decision to follow a person but if the outcome they lead them to is perceived as negative, they blame the leader - not their decision to follow. It is not much different to buying magazines of beautiful people and then blaming them for having body issues as there is a buy-in decision made and no one is forced into reading them. Perhaps it comes down (most likely) to knowing the self well enough to understand what is and what is not suitable for ourselves, meaning that if we know ourselves very well, those and the things we choose to follow and allow to influence us are more accurately matched to who we are and if they fail, it is our own failure in judgement of either our own needs, them as leaders - or likely both. The onus of blame has to fall on our shoulders eventually as the society we have created is made of individuals who make decisions with greater or lesser sensitivity to who we are, who others are and most commonly, *what we want* without necessarily knowing much on if what we want is suitable for who we are. Everyone knows the basics of eating healthy yet most people in the world struggle with it and then blame the advertising and corporations for forcing them to eat. No, they *influence* and that influence only has power for those who do not know themselves well enough to *not be influenced* by advertising. The authoritative system for most people gives them an out for their own failures as rather than recognize shortcomings as a product of their own lack of self-awareness and judgement, there is always someone *bigger and stronger* to blame for their ills. The problem isn't the leaders per se, it is that we chose our leaders very poorly and then project our poor choices as *their* failure. The same process happens with relationships that turn sour where people blame the other person for changing or failing without recognizing that no one forced them to choose them in the first place. It is easier to blame others than say, "I made a bad call". Well, now that I got a few thoughts out on the screen I feel a bit better about the meeting although my head is floating from lack of sleep. While I can manage well enough across most tasks under sleep deprivation (as I have been forced for years), I don't think anywhere near my best, so hopefully there is not too much contention over issues. Taraz [ a Steem original ]
Originally posted here: https://steemit.com/health/@tarazkp/decision-deprivation
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